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<\/h3>\n<\/h3>\nSometimes, you have to say the bad stuff. \u00a0The depressing stuff. \u00a0I hit that point this week.<\/p>\n
A growing edginess, slightly short of grumpy, fiercely pressed to smooth out the wrinkles of negative thoughts, finally, finally got to me. \u00a0I know how fortunate I am to be in a safe place and with my life partner and love, Jim. \u00a0But pressing in, intruding, is the passage of time\u2014time out, yes, but time gone by too.<\/p>\n
So last night we settled in the rain room, our quiet, peaceful place with comfy chairs, and talked about the stuff we have been tip-toeing around. \u00a0I hadn’t wanted to bum Jim out when I grieved over our canceled road trips, so I had been dismissing those thoughts when they showed up. \u00a0I hadn\u2019t wanted to admit to the sadness I was feeling over life on hold, so I made myself look \u201con the bright side\u201d until I could not stand it any more.<\/p>\n
It reminds me of a thing I often told my students about the effect of repeatedly saying \u201cno\u201d to myself when I was having a bad day in the studio\u2014depression. \u00a0When all my ideas were being shot down by my own inner critic, I taught myself to say \u201cyes\u201d and \u201cyes\u201d to every idea I had. \u00a0It worked me out of the slump every time. \u00a0Yes.<\/p>\n
And here I am doing the same sort of thing, different context, yes, but the same negative spiral\u2014telling myself not to feel the way I feel is the same denial, the same, the same, the same. \u00a0And it doesn\u2019t work.<\/p>\n
What a relief to know that Jim had been feeling the same way! \u00a0What a relief to admit it to each other, and to stop worrying about worrying\u2014even if it\u2019s just until the next unwelcome thought barges in.<\/p>\n
Well, we both felt better, relieved, and encouraged by telling ourselves and each other the truth. \u00a0Simple idea, not always easy to do.<\/p>\n
A chat in the rain room helps.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Thinking Out Loud… Sometimes, you have to say the bad stuff. \u00a0The depressing stuff. \u00a0I hit that point this week. A growing edginess, slightly short of grumpy, fiercely pressed to smooth out the wrinkles of negative thoughts, finally, finally got to me. \u00a0I know how fortunate I am to be in a safe place and … Continue reading “Time For A Rain Room Chat”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cynthiacorbin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1009"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cynthiacorbin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cynthiacorbin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cynthiacorbin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cynthiacorbin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1009"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/cynthiacorbin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1009\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1020,"href":"https:\/\/cynthiacorbin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1009\/revisions\/1020"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cynthiacorbin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1009"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cynthiacorbin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1009"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cynthiacorbin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1009"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}